Therapy really helped me understand that it really wasn't my fault.

For seven years, I blamed myself.

I thought, "What could I have done differently?

Should I have fought back?

Should I have said something immediately?"

But in the situation, people don't understand that

there's so much fear, you don't know what this person

is capable of doing to you.

And so I carried that with me a long time,

thinking, "I should have done something differently."

And through therapy, I was able to learn that

there really wasn't anything else that I could do differently,

considering the situation I was in and the safety that my body --

I was trying to stay safe, I just wanted to live,

I didn't know what he was capable of doing.

So therapy really helped me understand

that it really wasn't my fault, and it's not your fault.

And they can really help you come to agree with that.