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Struggling to confront that you've done something that's wrong is really tough to do…

Dan Alfaro (US Army, 2002-2014) explains why he stopped avoiding the fact that he needed help with moral injury.

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Struggling
to confront that you've done

something

that's wrong
is really tough to do.

You, for me,

I know that
I tried to rationalize

my actions in different ways
to kind of make it

a little bit more manageable
for me to deal with.

So what I did wasn't as bad
because

what choice did I have.

But ultimately, I've come to

have to confront the reality

that it was actually
more impactful on me

than I wanted to believe
at first.

First of all,
because I was avoiding it.

And then when I couldn't
avoid it any more,

because it kept coming up
and coming up and coming up,

and I had to deal with it.

It was actually quite a bit of
relief to understand that.

Yeah,
I had a part to play in that.

I didn't play it
the way I would have liked, but

as a kid,

what can you do
when you don't know any better?

And how can you know better
when you never even knew

the question existed?

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