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[In a relationship] it was really important for me to have control…

Steve Connor (Mess Management Specialist, US Navy, 1977 - 1979) US, Japan.

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When I would have a relationship

it was really important for me to...

have the control over it.

That if it's not working, it's...

Internally I knew lots of times

it was my fault,

but it was because I would shut down,

and put up a barrier between me

and my intimate partner.

That just was really hard,

somewhat for me,

but it must've been
excruciating for my ex-wives

because they would get to a point

where I would just shut down

and they couldn't talk to me.

Not that I would be silent

and stared off into space.

Just, I wouldn't talk.

I would talk about anything else.

I wouldn't wanna deal

with that intimate problem.

I lost two marriages due to the symptoms

and my behavior, and inability to share.

And share with anybody, including myself.

I just didn't wanna think about it,

just it was somebody else at another time

and another place,

and it didn't really matter.

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