I actually became a little bit better of a person that day.

When we went to go get help, the first time I walked in,

Judith, this lady, was our counselor, and I walked in

and I sat down, and I remember thinking,

"This is my wife's therapist,

and I'm about to get hit with a bunch of bombs

because she's been talking to my wife

and it's my first time here, so I'm about to hear everything

that my wife had opened up and said."

It was the polar opposite.

She sat down, she shared a little bit, said,

"You know, I was married to Special Forces guy for 20 years.

He was a Vietnam Veteran," and it kind of gave me

the comfort to know that, you know what,

this woman has experienced the exact same thing

my wife experienced, so maybe she can shed some light

and I won't take offense to it

because it's not coming from my wife.

And she basically made me understand

what I'm going through without offending me.

That was the first time I ever felt like,

you know what, I actually liked how I felt

when I walked out of that building that day.

I liked that I felt like I actually

became a little bit better of a person that day,

and that was when I realized that, you know,

not the fact that she can ever

make those things go away -- because they can't --

but the fact that she can help me understand

so I can carry on with my life and not feel so much guilt

and not feel so much anger and resentment.

That in itself was worth it because

I have a wife, I have a daughter, and they don't deserve that.

They deserve me to be healthy, they deserve me to be happy,

and Judith really changed my life on that day.